In the name of God,
Hey guys, welcome back to my blog.
In this series, I’m going to explain inside out of my immigration story, plan and process. I hope it helps people or makes them think again.
In this episode, we are going to go through how we prepared emotionally and set our goals for this huge change. Last but not least, I will tell you why saving money is an important necessity in this journey.
This is by far the most important step in this entire journey.
Having goals is crucial for every journey. You should know what you want clearly before making progress. The goal will be your hope until you reach it. Everyone has a different idea and goal in their mind. Mine is to grow, learn and make an impact. I have seen a lot of people moving just to make more money. Even though that is fine but I don’t really think it’s enough. Yet, I’m not the person to talk about that and here is not the place.
I usually have a problem with short term goals. I think when I reach them I have to spend a lot more energy and time to set another one. This period of resetting goals is my hardest time. So I would never suggest setting your goal just to move to another country. When you get there you need to have planned what you have to do next otherwise you will be lost in the whole new world you surrounded yourself with. Now if you have set your goal and still certain enough the next is to get ready for it.
Get ready, prepare, talk, consult, elevate emotionally and plan. When you travel you become everything you got. All the people you knew, trusted and grew together are not there anymore. That’s ok for short trips or missions. Moving to another country means losing them all almost forever. Means everything you’ve built has to be put behind and rebuilt.
For us, there were a few more things we had to forget. I come from a culture which is (I guess!) the most hospital and warm in the world. Where I come from, living in an apartment smaller than 50 m² is called tiny and you have to get yourself a proper house! There is a chandelier in every room sometimes even restrooms! There is are guests 2-3 times a week.
Our house certainly was not that good but we were used to this lifestyle. All that means we had to prepare for lonelier, darker, smaller houses. Even worse we had to somehow prepare ourselves to live in a city we could not talk to its people.
Even though our apartment was not full of these but still we had some. You may find a few of these in other countries but not all.
On top of all these, we are Muslim, which means we can not eat every food, can not join every party and definitely can not go to every place! So it’s even harder for our brains and bodies to adapt. Basically it’s harder to find a place that we could live in. The only thing we could initially do was to look for jobs only at places that have bigger Muslim communities so we could guess (only guess!) that there is something we can eat! I’m glad about our choice but we come to that later.
These are just a few things to keep in mind but the list goes on and on. Definitely every culture/person is different and who seeks to move to another place has to do a lot of research and prepare as much as possible. You have to know what you like and what you can not stand at all. So when you get an offer from a company you can decide whether that country can be a choice or not. Knowing your limits and capabilities will definitely come in handy in any journey migration is no exception.
One last thing I’d like to mention here (which is actually my biggest concern) is how my wife is going to blend in the next country. I have seen and heard a lot of stories about families that have moved to another country and one of the partners did not like it and could not live with it. Even though he/she knew his/her partner could not return, so eventually, they had to divorce. I seriously didn’t want this to happen to us. I value my family more than anything else. After all, this is a family decision and will be a family decision.
So before making any plan, before shaping any hope be mindful of what you are capable of and what you are doing. Know your limits and requirements and most importantly get to know yourself and family. Knowing what you can do in times of pressure/loneliness now, will help you a lot further down the road.
Moving to another house in your city is costly even worse when you want to change your city. But when you want to move to another country it is a whole different story!
The only thing that can keep you going in the first months is money. Everything you are going to see in the first months is going to be the tourist attractions which are expensive. When you don’t know the city well, you are going to buy from a store that might have higher prices! I know you can reduce your risk and expenses with research and asking, but trust me you have a lot to keep in mind in the first months so you are willing to pay even more to focus on more important things!
You are going to be lonely in the first months buying what you like is going to be the first idea that can cheer you up. You have to replace what you couldn’t bring with you from your country. Based on the destination country’s weather you may need a different type of clothes. For instance: If you are going from a warm country to a European country you will have to buy quite a few jackets and boots! House rent and deposit is not going to be cheap (depending on the city you choose). I had to buy my son’s old toys again as well as buying some new ones. Kindergarten and school cost money (again depending on your chosen country). These are just a few examples of costs and expenses ahead of you.
All and all this trip is going to cost a fortune. so either you are all in or you are out! Of course, I’m talking about who is living an average life not those wealthy money holders! After all, lots of people move to another country because of money!
So depending on your expenses and how big is your family and the destination country you should have enough to cover for at least 2-3 months. Find the average expenses for destination city and housing costs to get some idea. For me, it was something around 7-8 thousand euros. Honestly, for me, this was a huge blocker and it was only God who helped me.
On top of all the expenses Here are some more you should expect:
- Document translating
- Flight tickets
- Departure taxes
- Freight or online buyers
- Buying a suitcase.
- Signing up in lots of places (city hall, Tax organization and …)
- Opening a bank account
- Public transport tickets or car renting
It’s worth mentioning that some companies cover the entire or some of the cost of your relocation. I know this sounds cool enough but I would really suggest saving up some money for yourself as well to be in the safe zone. Keep in mind that companies might only transfer that money only after you have started working or when you have your new bank account all settled which could take some time. So the key here is communication and clarification with your next company.
Saving money is not easy so give yourself time before making a decision. Of course, you can save some when preparing for the next steps.
So that’s it guys for this post. Let me know if you have gone through the same journey or had a similar experience in the comments. Happy to hear different stories every day.
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Hope you enjoyed it. Thanks for reading.